Is Facebook a ‘time suck’ for you? Do you find yourself stuck in a trap of aimlessly clicking on the Facebook icon many times a day? Is your brain full with knowledge about what your high school classmate ate for lunch or where your distant cousin went on vacation?
Yet the pull is still there, isn’t it? The pull to continually check and make sure you’re not missing anything… the pull to improve your score on the latest addictive game…
Well, guess what? You are missing something.
You’re missing out on living your own life by focussing so much on the lives of others. You’re missing bonding moments with your children because you’re playing a game on Facebook instead of a game with them.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
But you don’t have to close your Facebook account either! It can be useful.
Here are 6 ways to get quality time from your Facebook account:
1. Take Facebook off of your smart phone – that’ right. I said it. Remove it and stop checking it. It will be there on your computer when you get home. There are enough distractions in a day when you are out and about. Don’t worry about Facebook.
2. Turn off most notifications – Do you really need to know about every new post on all the groups you’ve joined? Pick three essential groups. Shut off everything else. For me, I only get notifications from the homeschool group I’m a part of. That’s it. One group.
3. Unfollow everyone but your closest group of friends – And by closest, I mean closest. The people you really share everything with and are a part of your daily, inner circle of relationships. This way you won’t ‘unfriend’ anyone and offend, but you don’t have to see all their posts either.
Worried about missing something important? Trust me – you’ll find out if it’s important. Or you’ll see a comment on a post by one of your closest friends.
How do you unfollow? You can do this in one of two ways: Go through your friends list and click the ‘unfollow’ button, granted it takes a while. Or, when a post appears in your newsfeed, hover on the top right corner of the post and click on the drop down arrow. Unfollow your friend from there. This will take some time initially, but you’ll be surprised at how quickly your news feed will clear up.
4. Hide posts from most of your fan pages – Did you know you can still show support and ‘like’ a Facebook fan page without having everything show up in your news feed? Pick five, beneficial, postive, up-building fan pages whose posts will brighten your day and encourage you as you read them – like Basic Abundance. Then unfollow all the rest.
5. Pick only a few people who can access you through chat – or better yet, turn it off all together.
6. Delete all game apps – Yup! This one’s a doozy. It’s hard at first, but once the addiction is broken, you’ll see that Facebook games aren’t a ‘break’ or an ‘escape’. They actually busy your mind instead of resting it, and reinforce addictive behaviour.
And there you have it. It may seem a bit shocking at first – can you really do it? I’m here to tell you, yes you can!
Still nervous about it? Tell you what. Try it for one month. Just one month! There’s a freedom that comes when you minimize your Facebook time.
You can always ‘follow’ people again if you feel your missing out.
But I don’t think you will.